Everyday Stress

How is it kids know exactly how to push your buttons? Today Mags peed her pants yet again while playing outside with the kids upstairs. While I had her in the bathroom stripping her down, the kid upstairs opened the door and let Ethan in, almost letting Becky out. I shooed Ethan back out and told the boy that Mags was busy. Well, I'm a little behind on laundry right now so I had to go down to the basement to do some after this incident. Mags was in undies only and I told her she had to stay in. I return upstairs to find her outside on the porch. I wrangle her in and the next thing I know, the mom upstairs is at the door with my dog, and Ethan is out by the road. All hell has broken loose. I get the dog and kiddo inside...fold laundry and dare to use the bathroom. While I'm in the bathroom, Ethan takes the pen I was using for homework notes and writes all over my laptop monitor. GRRRRRR!!!!!!!!

I'm physically and mentally exhausted right now. I cannot believe how much tension there is in my neck, shoulders, and back. And all I want to do is go to sleep. I'm surprised the neighbor didn't call the authorities on me after today's adventures, especially since I lost my cool and yelled a bit, too. She's into attachment parenting so we don't mesh all that well these days (I believe her kids still sleep in her bed at 4 and 2 years old, for example). SIGH. And I have to get homework done because tomorrow I will miss out on a few hours of homework time to see the doctor about an ongoing female health issue I've been having.

Is it Saturday yet? I need a break.

I'm A Rock Star

Last night my mom had a party for my sister's 28th birthday. Big turkey dinner, excellent cake, followed by Rock Band--Beatles and regular versions. It's dorky but I had a good time. Drank a couple beers, tried a new drink with some really old whiskey that tasted like butt (my dad has had it since he got married 33 years ago and it was a 10-year-old whiskey at the time--it did not age well), played the drums, and sang. Good decompression.

I think some of the forum issues have been cleared up. A few of my friends stepped forward and tried to clarify their behavior/what was going on. I'm still not entirely sure who to trust but at least the lines of communication are open. In retrospect, I likely over-reacted to the situation because I was already feeling down. I apologized.

Today is beautiful but chilly. Waiting for Brian to get back from his bike ride so I can work on homework. Yay. Not so much. Ever read D.H. Lawrence's Women in Love? It's difficult to wade through yet quite interesting if you give it a chance. Some very relevant quotes for today. Also shows how passionate women can get about love and men--in good and bad ways. I have 135 pages more to read for tomorrow and that's just the first half! Another 250 pages for next week...

Further Thoughts on Last Night's Post

Tonight was American Studies (1830s)--as seminar course where you just never know what you'll come across. For some reason, we got on the topic of companionate marriage and how America was different from most of the world at the time because of this. Most places were still strongly attached to marriage for business-connections, bettering the family's class, increasing lands, etc. In America, however, they had this crazy idea of marrying because they actually *liked* the other person--imagine that!

Then it clicked! This crazy idea of choosing our partners because we want them (which is a practice that's only 200-250 years old by estimates) could be a big reason why so much of the world turns a blind eye to affairs or even polygamy. If you are from a history of connections that don't fulfill what you want other than power or money--certainly not someone who sets your passions afire and you want to spend your time with--then no wonder why this would be the norm and we would seem uptight over here for being upset about it. No wonder!

Yeah... it was a dumb leap and should have been more obvious, I know. But for some reason, I keep looking for a reason why this happens in general. The societal views and what makes it okay in some places and not in others. I can't help myself--people say something that is barely, remotely related to the topic and all the sudden I have an epiphany and want to discuss it. Something most people are not receptive to since it is such a hush-hush topic here.

I'm crazy.

I'm also feeling a bit defunkified. The forum shit is still going on. Realizing that some of these people I knew were not presenting themselves as they really are is disheartening. I've lost some people I thought were friends over this nonsense. But I guess they were never really friends in the first place--just shadows of what I hoped they would be and there's no point in chasing something that doesn't exist. Life as a hermit is so much easier.

Final Thought of the Evening

Tonight in World Religions we were discussing misconceptions about religions and in particular, Mormonism. We watched a documentary called "American Mormons" which was quite interesting in that people (at least, those chosen to be featured) don't know a whole lot about Mormonism (not that I claim to be any expert because I am not) and have it mixed up with many other ideas. What's on my mind right now--the polygamy idea. Or more specifically, polygyny as it was multiple-wives in particular that was proclaimed by Brigham Young in 1853 to be the new everlasting covenant of marriage (i.e. righteous men should take multiple wives--something that was not a new idea, mind you--and was put in place probably partly due to the fact that in their oppression as they moved across the country, many of their members were dying). However that practice ended in 1890 with the manifesto threatening immediate excommunication for polygyny among mainstream Mormons. Most interviewed thought that it was still standard practice.

Here's where the part that's engaging my mind at the moment comes in... according to the professor, 70% of societies practice polygyny. Granted, it's not for all men: they have to be wealthy and have a good reason. Still, monogamy is in the minority. That's staggering. I thought a lot last year about whether man (as a species) was supposed to be monogamous--whether it's our Puritanical American view that makes this a bone of contention (since many other countries openly speak out against our frigidness) and we're really fighting nature, or if it's purely a societal thing. Regardless, it's clear that in this country, it is not looked upon favorably. But does that mean it's "wrong"? Are we fighting a losing battle? When you consider 50% of marriages end in divorce in our country and, according to our counselor, somewhere around 70% of relationships deal with infidelity at some point (whether they know it or not), it does make one wonder...

And if it's the nature of the beast to want more than one (and it bears repeating that in the countries where this is in practice, it is multiple wives that is allowed--women are not allowed multiple husbands [not that they'd want multiple men to clean up after!]) then why bother? Why fight it if it's a losing battle?

I don't have answers. Heck, I don't even have an idea of what I feel on the topic; my opinions vacillate often and I'm not sure what I believe. I just know that a lot of people are dealing with this multiple partner thing, whether through a sanctioned multiple-marriage or by going outside a monogamous one. And yet nobody discusses it.

Lack of Motivation

So while I managed to get my online life in order today, my real life is, sadly, completely out of it. I have no desire to wash dishes or fold laundry. I don't even want to think about dinner. And homework? Haven't cracked a book all day. Ugh. I suppose we all need days where we let ourselves slide a bit but I've been having a week of them--not good! Where did my motivation go?

Sadly, I will miss the most exciting part of the day. While I'm at class tonight, Brian will be taking the kids to go pickup a climber-slide combo thing that I found on craigslist for $25. Hopefully this will get them to stop climbing in the burning bush, which is likely to be permanently scarred by their adventures. It's not big or fancy but I'm sure they'll love it.

And that's my life... tonight is World Religions, which is a really interesting course. It's viewed from the anthropological stance rather than the typical philosophical. LOVE this class. Actually, I can't say I hate any of them this semester. My English professor is a little snooty (she loves to tell us how she could never pass for working class and about all the debutante balls she had to attend as a teenager) but she has some interesting views. She seems somewhat open-minded as far as papers go so that should be okay in the end. My American Studies professor must be toking it before class--the dude is way too mellow and disorganized. But hey, he's happy. We don't have a clue what he wants us to do (he's never even told us how he'll be grading the class, if there will be exams, nada!) but we keep showing up.

Balance.... where oh where are you?

Serving A Purpose

This blog has been pretty much dead for the last couple of years because...well, my life didn't exactly become something worthy of sharing with the world. Facebook had served the purpose for a while of receiving support as needed while sharing the details of my life....but recent events have proven that I need to be a little more careful about what I put out there on the world wide web. So I've removed a lot of personal details on Facebook and I'm going private here. I realize my life is not so exciting to expect a faithful readership, but at least I can have an outlet for my issues without worry of them being broadcast everywhere for people to judge and ridicule.

I hope you don't mind, my few, selected readers. And if you don't read, that's okay, too. At least I can get this all off my chest.